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Mirza and Masculinity

Posted in Love Legends by admin
Jan 23 2013
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Text and Images by: Daljit Ami

Love legends in Punjab have not only been rendered in different art forms but also been invoked to negotiate the contemporary social issues. Painting, poetry, songs, films and folk songs are crucial to understand the importance of love legends in Punjabi society where love legends are an integral part of the folk idiom, and are embedded in the sub-conscious of every Punjabi.

If these narratives are so much part of the popular consciousness, how do we read the fact that the legends all forefront the woman protagonist? It is only in the legend of Mirza-SahibaN that the name of the man precedes. What are the possible interpretations in contemporary reality?

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At a workshop conducted by Hri at the women-only BBK DAV College in Amritsar in early November, Mirza frequently figured in the discussion. Here, students shared their experiences about gender discrimination and dual standards of society when it came to the liberty to love or choose a companion of one’s own.

Painters and poets have interpreted love legends as metaphors, motifs and representations of the indomitable female spirit struggling against patriarchal social norms. Poets of all hues have used love legend in one or other context. They have been invoked to celebrate the spirit of Punjab; to express the suppressed desires of women; and even to aspire for social revolution. In cinema, the same love legends have also been interpreted in ways that assert violent masculinity entrenched in patriarchy.

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While Mirza was being discussed, we screened clips from two films about this beleaguered lover. These films, “Mirza, An Untold Story” and “Hero Hitler in Love” are loosely based on the legend of doomed lovers. The first was adapted with the Punjabi diaspora in mind. In this film, Mirza is a Canadian policeman who chases the killers of his brother. These men also happen to be SahibaN’s drug smuggling brothers. The film reasserts violent masculinity with strong anti-women under tones. The second film has an interesting background. Initially, the producers had chosen the title “Mirza” but it was already registered. Subsequently, they changed their story a little and named it “Hero Hitler in Love”. The male protagonist, Hitler Singh follows his love Sahiba to Pakistan under the pseudonym, Mirza. In the end he asserts that he is not Mirza who will die in every love story but Hitler who kills all those in his path. Indirectly, the film criticizes Mirza for being pacifist and unashamedly asserts caste, ethnic and gender biases.

The participants were absorbed by the film clips and spontaneously commented on the patriarchal values and violence being asserted through these films. Some participants linked these stereotypes to their own experiences and social norms of contemporary society, which were anti-women: women are unreliable, less wise than males and they are objects of male desire and ownership. A student shared that they were under constant pressure to avoid male company. She narrated an incident when she was supposed to go for a study tour. Meanwhile, her distant cousin’s relationship with her boyfriend got exposed. Immediately, her parents withdrew the permission for study tour lest she develop a liaison with a boy. The control is not very different from the centuries-old control of Sohni.

Present-day Sohnis

DSC02088-vertFrom Mirza, the discussion veered towards strong women characters like Sohni. Participants started with constructing the outline of the story, with others filling in details. After the recreation, the participants were asked how how this simple story qualified to be a “legend”. Different interpretations emerged about why the story had endured through the ages: Sohni’s indomitable spirit and conviction about love. When asked which incident in Sohni’s life was the most significant, participants chose to focus on: Sohni and Mahiwal’s first fateful meeting; Sohni visiting Mahiwal when he was grazing buffaloes; Mahiwal visiting her disguised as a yogi; Sohni eating meat brought by Mahiwal from across the Chenab; drowning Sohni and Sohni clinging on to the legendary pitcher which dissolves in the raging water.

To set the stage for the discussion, emotive musical renditions of the legend by Barqat Sidhu and Sajida Begum were screened.  Talking about why the specific occasions were significant, the pitcher was found to be the most important symbol of Sohni’s life. An intense discussion followed, trying to interpret Sohni’s thoughts when she discovered that her pitcher had been replaced by an unbaked one. Students talked about her resolve, the appeal on the other side of the river and patriarchal pressure on her back.

Churning and expression

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At this point paintings of different painters over a period of more than a hundred years who had worked on love legends in general and Sohni in particular were shared with the students. Immediately after this when asked about any recent incident involving young couple; within no time they were talking about an incident in Jalandhar a few months earlier where a girl committed suicide after journalists photographed her with her boyfriend. We discussed this incident in detail and students discussed this with anguish. Comparing the girl’s mindset with that of Sohni, the students came up with responses underlining the contemporary relevance of love legends. Some students were of the opinion that contemporary women were being presented through these love legends, as social norms are similar. One girl said, “Sohni had committed suicide…” The students used the blank canvases on the walls and charts to express their ideas of love and the clay pitchers that were installed for the workshop. The resultants were diverse expressions of art forms like illustrations, paintings and poems. Indeed, when love legends are adapted through different art expressions, women in today’s Punjab seem to be negotiating their personal and social spaces through these narratives.

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The Sohni Within

Posted in Love Legends by admin
May 02 2012
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Chintan Girish Modi

As a boy born and brought up in Mumbai, I have had little acquaintance with the tale of Sohni-Mahiwal other than stray references to this couple in Bollywood films and Hindi television serials replete with love stories, often involving transgression of norms about whom one is allowed to love or/and get married to. I remember hearing Sohni-Mahiwal in the same breath as Heer-Ranjha and Romeo-Juliet. While I had no introduction to the stories of these lovers, I recognized that they were legendary and spectacular. Indeed, it appeared as though passionate lovers who dared to defy social norms seemed to be inspired by these precedents.

I had a closer encounter with Soh(i)ni and Mahiwal (also called Mehar) a year ago, as a researcher with the Kabir Project. Filmmaker Shabnam Virmani narrates the story during a festival of Sindhi Sufi poetry, ‘Seeking the Beloved’. The festival celebrated the verse of 17th century Sufi Shah Abdul Latif Bhitai who weaves spiritual allegories around the tales of legendary lovers like Sohni-Mahiwal, Sassi-Punhoon, Umar-Marui, Leela-Chanesar and others.

Shabnam’s narration is inspired from Shah Adbul Latif: Seeking the Beloved, a book by Anju Makhija and Hari Dilgir, which features translations of Latif’s Sindhi verse into English for contemporary readers. The book was published by Katha in 2005. In this festival video we get to hear this narration, followed by a soul-stirring musical rendition of this story by Sumar Kadu Jat and Mitha Khan Jat from Kutch. This article by Namrata Kartik from the Kabir Project archives hosted on Open Space India’s Tana-Bana platform describes Shah Latif’s quest for the beloved.

As I watch the video again, the music and the narration inspire me to share the basic elements of the story before I proceed to share what meaning I make of it.

Excerpt from Anju Makhija and Hari Dilgir’s Shah Abdul Latif: Seeking the Beloved, Katha, New Delhi: 2005, page 187During the reign of Shah Jahan, a village potter named Tulla lived on the banks of a river with his beautiful daughter Sohini. Tulla was so talented that even the king patronized his art.One day a wealthy trader from Iran, Izzat Beg, came to Gujarat, saw Sohini and instantly fell in love with her. Beg’s love was reciprocated and in order to see Sohini, he frequented her father’s shop and purchased pots in dozens which he disposed off at cheaper prices. He ended up bankrupt and was forced to approach Tulla, who hired him and entrusted him with the job of taking the buffaloes for grazing. Izzat Beg came to be known as Mehar.Sohini and Mehar would meet secretly, and when the potter came to know about it, he got his daughter married to Dam, a young man from his own community. Mehar, after losing his job, settled on the other bank of the river, Chenab. When Sohini came to know about this, she used to leave her husband at night to meet Mehar and return early morning.Unfortunately, Mehar fell ill, and become an invalid. Sohini, with the help of a baked matka, used to cross the currents to meet her lover. On return, she used to hide the matka in the bushes. However, this could not remain a secret for long and, one night, her in-laws secretly substituted the baked matka for an unbaked one. The next day, when Sohini reached mid-stream, the matka gave way and she began to call out to Mehar for help. Mehar heard her call and jumped into the river. However, he was too weak to help her and they both drowned.

The theme that stands out most clearly for me is that of transgression. Mahiwal’s former name ‘Izzat Beg’ seems unusually striking in this regard. He is willing to let go of the ‘honour’ or ‘izzat’ associated with his wealth and position to pursue his loved one, a potter’s daughter. That was a major hurdle in his time, as it is now, considering that marital alliances are so often based on economic considerations. Parents want to get their child married to someone who not only practices the same religion, speaks the same language, and belongs to the same region, but who also displays a similar standard
of living.

Mahiwal dares to love someone outside these boundaries. He goes a step further. After becoming bankrupt, he seeks employment with his beloved’s father, who is a potter. The tables have turned. The potter who is traditionally supposed to be lower down on the social ladder as compared to a trader is now employing a trader. However, the news of this love affair is not received favourably by the potter. He gets his daughter married to someone within his own community. Mahiwal loses his love and his job, or so it seems at this point.

What I find amazingly progressive here is the fact that the agency in this love story is not with Mahiwal and Tulla alone. Sohni too is a strong, powerful figure. She knows what she wants. Her faith is unflinching. She cares little for the social mores that she is required to follow as bride, daughter and daughter-in-love. She is not bothered about “log-kya-kahenge”. She is drenched in her love for Mahiwal.

 

One of Anju Makhija and Hari Dilgir’s translations says (the numbers in brackets refer to Shah Latif’s Sindhi original Shah Jo Risalo):

those who got a glimpse

abandoned their homes

and husbands

even without matkas

in the whirlpool they swirled

(79/5)

 

Another one states:

beseeching god’s help

sohini journeys on a matka

ornaments sink

sharks

crocodiles encircle

whales threaten

to tear limbs apart

(81/15)

 

Yet another stanza states:

she jumps in

to choose safe waters

is the route of impostors

those who love

take on the mighty river

(86/4)

And yet another:

mehar

is

sohini

so is the river

an unfathomable mystery

(83/34)

 

Mitha Khan Jat, Abdullah Kumar, and Sumar Kadu Jat from Bagadiya village, Kutch, Gujarat (L to R)

These stanzas, coupled with the intensity of the Waee performance in the video, give me gooseflesh. There is something utterly mad and moving about this intensity. The waves lash at you. They slap you in the face. They take you along in the current. They embrace, envelop and elevate you. They seem to tell you that you are a fool caught up in pleasing the world, that you should just follow your bloody heart because there is nothing wiser than that.

In the video, Shabnam says, “The river has flowed for centuries between desire and fulfillment. What lies on this side of the banks of the river is the status quo, the establishment, the structures of containment, and the plunge is transgression. And I think Sohini’s failure perhaps lay in her return at dawn to keep up the pretence. And in a sense, in Sohini’s failure, lie all our failures as we struggle to move between this bank and the other, between had and anhad.”

Perhaps there is some truth in this. I am not sure if I want to see Sohini as a failure though. It is easy to think of her as some kind of tragic heroine punished for the fatal flaw of having courted the forbidden, dreamt outside of what is permissible. Why the gooseflesh then? Why don’t I feel repelled by her? Why do I find her incredibly attractive? I may not make the kind of audacious choices that Sohni and Mahiwal made but their story inspires me to stand up for what I believe in, despite the hurdles that might come my way. And this is not just about matters of love. It extends to the kind of work I want to do, the people I want to be friends with, the places I am comfortable in, the questions I allow my students to ask in the school where I teach.

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